The tough love in the son and lovers

王文杰

Marriage must be a good selection of marriage. Mrs. Morel and her husband are not a class of people at all, because of the ball at first sight love hastily decided to get married, and then the marriage life is very unhappy. This result is actually very easy to understand. It seems very appropriate for the two of them to look at their looks from the outside, but there is no way to eliminate the internal gaps in education level, ideology, upbringing and personality. These gaps are there, not resolved, and then there will be conflict, the days will not go together. But the two of them before marriage, did not consider these, blindly married, this is the root cause of marital unhappiness. Therefore, marriage is not a small matter, we must consider whether the other party is suitable for living together, can not be treated rashly.

The Morrels still quarreled frequently after having children, and the children did not like their father. Every time he came back, the family would become quiet. Occasionally, parents quarrel at night. At this time, William and Anne are too nervous to sleep. When I see this is very sad, deeply aware of a problem : not harmonious family for young children mind damage is very big. Parents are the role models of children and the main pillars of a family. Their every move may have an impact on children. If parents can 't create a good environment for children to grow up, then the child 's happiness in the family will be greatly reduced, which will even bring harm to him or her. In my opinion, parents have an obligation to create a harmonious family atmosphere for their children. Since they gave birth to him, they must strive to make him grow up happily, rather than let him see his parents hurt each other all day long.As the children of the Mortons grew up, the story entered its second phase, and the plot became complicated. After losing her eldest son William, Mrs. Moreton began to put all her efforts on her second son Paul, which gave Paul a lot of mental pressure and made him very painful. This strange feeling between mother and child makes me have a deep sense of suffocation in the process of reading. Paul has always been under the oppression of his mother. He works, studies and even falls in love carefully according to his mother 's wishes. I think this aspect is Mrs. Morton 's fault. Her love for her son is deformed and irrational. She should not put the misfortune of marriage into pressure on her son. On the other hand, I think this result is caused by Paul 's cowardice to a certain extent. He does not dare to resist his mother, so he is limited by his mother in many aspects, which makes him develop a hesitant personality. I think Paul is very compassionate. He lost his emotional freedom under pressure, but he didn 't dare to resist. He was in pain and tangle all day. From this strange relationship, we can draw two reasons. One is that parents should treat their children rationally and respect their own thoughts and decisions while loving them. In addition, as a child should have their own independent thinking, can not blindly rely on parents.

Finally, about Paul 's two lovers : one is Miriam, the other is Clara. Paul and Miriam 's love belongs to the spiritual love, they have a lot of common language together, can talk about poetry, Paul 's painting... However, their feelings are suppressed in the physical aspect. They always restrain their desires and only limit their feelings to the spiritual level. Miriam, in particular, has an exclusive attitude towards sex. She has always believed that as long as Paul 's soul is here, he always belongs to her. But she later discovered that her idea was wrong，she thinks that all this is just wishful thinking. Looking at Clara, she is a married woman who has been separated from her husband for a long time. Before she met Paul, she had always maintained an indifferent attitude towards men and seemed very noble. But later, she still relied on Paul to get a job, and then had an affair with Paul without divorce. This relationship between her and Paul has not been corrected, because she only depends on the body is not enough to let Paul can not be separated from her. From Paul 's two love stories, we can see that relying solely on the spirit or relying solely on the body cannot constitute true love. Love is a natural process. Spiritual intimacy and physical intimacy are complementary to each other. Don 't just focus on one aspect and deliberately avoid the other.